you guys know that I don't blog mundane things like what happens in my daily life.
so here goes:
I've been encountering a couple of people at this junction in my life and this has made me realise how shallow-minded people can be.
Many things I want to point out, yet I fumble for a starting point.
There was this girl, who kept pondering about the unfairness of life. I mean, simple aspects like: why pure sciences isn't offered to all schools, so unfair right? or why are we offered this difficult paper to discuss, it's so unfair that the previous group before us had a simpler paper.
In my head I thought: Why are you thinking about whether it is unfair or not? Life IS unfair. Face it girl.
When I was much younger I used to ponder the same issue: why is it unfair that some things are better than others? why is the world so unfair?
When I grew up, I began to accept this hard reality: Life is already unfair, whether you like it or not, you have to just accept it. So now, whenever something that is unfair happens to me, something which is a fact of life or something which I can't change, i'd just feel sian and accept it and not try to fight it.
Am I going to waste time mulling over how unfair things are? Am I going to waste emotions thinking why some people are better off?
No.
Unfairness has already been part and parcel of my life since young, when I was afflicted with high fever which affected my hearing. Growing up in a not-so-wealthy family with cranky parents, being bullied, not being able to chase my dream, having my heart broken, etc.. life wasn't so smooth-sailing for me.
Why do I have such ill-fate and why do some people have such happy-go-lucky lives?
I don't have the time and energy to be too bothered about that. I do feel sad about it sometimes, but it's always a passing phase where i cry and get over with it.
There was another girl, from an elite background i must say, whose actions have made me realise elites aren't so 'high-and-mighty' after all. She gossips. Perhaps its something that all girls do. But sometimes I can't help but think (and try not to look incredulous) that she gets uptight/excited over the stupidest of things. I'd written a whole blog post about why gossiping shows how shallow you are and i'm not going to repeat that in here.
I learnt that the world isn't always black and white. Its often grey. Good or bad things which we think they are are actually societal pressures; there is no golden rule that says what is good or what is bad. Of course, an advantage of having such societal pressures and standards that the world is kept in order. On the other hand, having the same forces makes us one-sided in our thoughts, inability to comprehend the rationality of 'bad' actions, and taking of things for granted.
There was this girl i know who complained of a group member who did not do any work because of his busy schedule. This girl wanted this group member not to get any credit. I said she has character, or spunk, because she actually dared to do something which we usually won't do.
One of the above girls asked: So is that a good or bad thing?
I said: I don't know. It's up to the individual to decide.
I merely said she had character; I didn't say what she did was wrong or right. Of course someone who sympathized with the group member may say that what she did wasn't right. But to me, a comment on having character is different from having a bad/good thing.
If i were to put it out in plain black and white terms, her having character is good because she dared to voice out her opinions, but at the same time this is bad because she could forget to consider the other party's views.
Then again, did she really fail to consider the other party's views or she just didn't care?
Or did the other party didn't put in effort in the work?
Without proper knowledge of what actually happened, I find it very difficult to make decisions which I believe in. Which is why when you ask me an opinion on something in which there is only two answers, I can't answer.
I came across a comment in youtube which said that "although elites seem to have all the good things in life, remember that we are not as shallow as them"
